What kind of person you are? Are you one of a kind who speak direct once you open up your mouth while most of the time you just keep down to earth prefer listening and observing people around you? Most of the time I think I am categorized in this kind. But it can be totally out of range when I am with superclose friends, I mean those who I often hangout outside my work boundaries.
I knew a girl who try to speak blunt on her blog, talking everyhing that she wasn't satisfy with, regardless her fault or else's fault or anything whenever she looks, assume or feels not great according to her taste and doesn't suit with her interests. But when it comes to real situation, when she is needed to face it by the opponents she had commented or complaints, she freak out, refuse to stand brave. Maybe she has reason, I better assume that no? Positive thinking? I however act otherwise. I don't care about how these kind of person who never even generally fast scan me in person think or commented about me. First off all, he/she doesn't do any homework, they have no ideas and all that they say surely said without any concrete evidence. So why bother?? I am sure i'll be an idiot if I do, don't I? And to explain is just a waste of time(for me). So the morale is...ignore any comments about yourself from big mouth who you know that they are just talking craps. They are just someone who might envy with you. Just ignore. As long it's not harm, let he/she be. They are just foolish themselves. Right?? Move to next.
Do you ever have a friend who tends to backstab you when you do so much favor in the relationship? Or perhaps a friend who totally push you aside when she/he achieve her/his purpose? or someone who just look after you when she/he needs someone to be with while having problems, sad, sort of? I would not say that I am a goddess good friend. Really I am far not. So I do admit that I might be one of this kind but truely I never meant it (for those who think that I am) and seriously I am asking for appologize. Sincerely. Okay, my words are, this kind of person is everywhere. Very common in now community. Furthermore if we live in the city where everyone is competing each other to secure life. It has to be selfish, sometimes. It is very important to have mutual understanding in between friends. Our needs need to be told directly in the manner than no one get hurts or twisted if possible when we have decided to say about true facts. The more we hide, the more our friends felt suspicious where at last they might speculate things wrongly. That time, we are not to blame them. I am so grateful I have friends that understand me well enough and even we are not satisfied at certain things, we were able to argue, sometime we really had fight, but rationally without making enemy so far. We manage it as an adult, we do like we are siblings. And for me, they are my siblings. They are one of the best things happen in my life. Ok. Back to the square, what shall we do if we do have this kind of friends. I mean the take-advantage friends. Well, I think I did have this kind quite sometime ago. As I do avoid things before it becomes bigger, I normally would just imply either one option. Either I speak right to her/his face directly and give her/him chance to improve/stop taking advantage on me, or I just leave that person without any words. I can simply walk away with no mercy, no compromise if it is a big mistake. Again, talk much is just a waste of worth time. Not to forget, sometimes I am very, superlazy of talking, passive, especially for things that convey me no benefits. There were people who think I do reverse psychology, but to be faithfull, I don't. But of course I know sometime I drove people in such a way. My fault??
Whatever it is, shower the friendship/relationship with honesty, faith, dignity mutually. If you mean to ask for help from your friends, no matter what she/he is your very best friend, do not burdenly hope that she/he can make it to help you and once he/she really can't make it for you, never blame the string. She/he maybe has something more important to accomodate. Please don't slip with own assumption that he/she refuse to help when you're in trouble. I do understand and I did feel unregistered sometime ago when my friends could not give me their hands when I needed badly, but soon I revert positively they had their own activities which was more important than my things. Morale, dont be too please, rely on yourself or find other alternatives to survive. Finding solution is better than keep yourself mourning.
As to wrap up, for those who care, for those who love, for those who be so understanding, and for those who accept me as I am, I am so much honoured and feel so blessed to have you as one of my friend. Don't worry, if you have anger, unsatisfy just point it out directly. Exception to my best friends (doesn't mean aku grant korang buat aku melampau la oit), I do appreciate if u can propose it diplomatically and so do i. I am rational. I am. InsyaAllah.
To best friends:
Aku bosan hari ni. Entah apa aku merepek. Hahahaha. Sayang korang! So love!
2 Corresponds:
I guess everyone is different. But these differences make life seems to be more colourful than you u could think of. Talking about behaviour, I am sure the differences are infinity. And that makes each of us special in our own way. On the remarks that a person can speak non stop about what she was not satisfy with when most of the time she was just an observer etc.. I strongly believe that could happen as it happens to me either... As a human being, everyone has their own limitation to except craps. And when ppl around them go beyond this limitation, that’s what they’re going to get.. I call it reaction.. n reaction can goes out of norm. It’s just like a pressure vessel, when it is over pressured, you’re going to get gas venting out through relief valve. That is why you sometimes see your friend bursting out their emotion via whatever they consider as a relief valve. Be it you, frens, that other person, time to meditate, a scream.. it could be anything.. However I don’t deny the right way is actually to be as close as you can to your creator. Yet as a human being, you always seek the easiest way you could think of. On self conscious issue – you may regret with your own reaction. But then I guess we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves and let it be. That is why most of the time we choose our close friends as our venting source, on the fact that you know they could understand it’s just you going out of control with your emotion.
On the contrary, I strongly agree when someone pass comment, you don’t have to bother if you don’t want to. It’s really your choice n in this case the person who has gone beyond the limitation does not have to bother as long as they are happy with their life. It’s really their choice and they don’t have to live with others’ comments or reaction.. as long as it does not affect their self conscious – if only they have one, or whatever they consider important in their life.
Yup everyone is different. It's always an individual choice on how to chanel or vent out some sort of over pressure. As long the reaction reacts in a good manner, not harm, then vent it out. I can be your relief valve if u want to. U know it.
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